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Love for Imperfect Things

By Haemin Sunim and Deborah Smith and Haemin Sunim and Lisk Feng
Love for Imperfect Things by Haemin Sunim and Deborah Smith and Haemin Sunim and Lisk Feng digital book - Fable

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Publisher Description

Susan Cain, New York Times bestselling author of Quiet: "The world could surely use a little more love, a little more compassion, and a little more wisdom. In Love for Imperfect Things, Haemin Sunim shows us how to cultivate all three, and to find beauty in the most imperfect of things--including your very own self."

A #1 internationally bestselling book of spiritual wisdom about learning to love ourselves, with all our imperfections, by the Buddhist author of The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down

Hearing the words "be good to yourself first, then to others" was like being struck by lightning.

Many of us respond to the pressures of life by turning inward and ignoring problems, sometimes resulting in anxiety or depression. Others react by working harder at the office, at school, or at home, hoping that this will make ourselves and the people we love happier. But what if being yourself is enough? Just as we are advised on airplanes to take our own oxygen first before helping others, we must first be at peace with ourselves before we can be at peace with the world around us.

In this beautiful follow-up to his international bestseller The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, Zen Buddhist monk Haemin Sunim turns his trademark wisdom to the art of self-care, arguing that only by accepting yourself--and the flaws that make you who you are--can you have compassionate and fulfilling relationships with your partner, your family, and your friends. With more than thirty-five full-color illustrations, Love for Imperfect Things will appeal to both your eyes and your heart, and help you learn to love yourself, your life, and everyone in it.

When you care for yourself first, the world begins to find you worthy of care.

18 Reviews

“3.5 i guess the universe really thought i needed help because i haven’t read a self help book in over 2 years and decided to pick this up randomly. it has some really sweet quotes and ideas in it but nothing really mind blowing. i have an extra .5 for the beautiful illustrations cause they made me so happy. overall, i enjoyed reading this when i felt like it, i struggle with striving for perfection a lot so this was really reassuring for me”
“Lots of really solid advice and considerations provided in bite-sized vignettes and adages.”
“DNF. The choice of phrases, words, stories are probably the things that putting me off. It felt too simplistic, for something so complex: life.”
“❝Love transcends human understanding.❞ Love for Imperfect Things is a spiritual book about embracing yourself, familiarizing your flaws and loving your indifference. I feel like this books is specifically written for me. It hit some nerves in me I didn't know existed. It was like the book itself is talking to me, telling me that it's okay to feel this way, that my reactions are valid and I am fully understood. I love how Haemin wrote some of his life experience. Regarding a particular topic every chapter, before words of wisdom. It also enhances your understanding on such matters you refused to acknowledge. Lastly, this book made me value time and presence more. If you're perfectionist like me, someone who's afraid to fail, or carrying pressure from people around you, this book is definitely for you. When one door closes, another one opens. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐/5”

About Haemin Sunim

Haemin Sunim is one of the most influential Zen Buddhist teachers and writers in the world. Born in South Korea, he came to the United States to study film, only to find himself pulled into the spiritual life. Educated at UC Berkeley, Harvard, and Princeton, he received formal monastic training in Korea and taught Buddhism at Hampshire College in Amherst, Massachusetts. He has more than a million followers on Twitter (@haeminsunim) and Facebook and is one of Spirituality & Health's Top 10 Spiritual Leaders of the Next 20 Years and one of Greatist's 100 Most Influential People in Health and Fitness. His books--The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, which has been published in more than thirty languages, and Love for Imperfect Things--have sold more than four million copies and are popular as guides not only to meditation but also to overcoming the challenges of everyday life. When not traveling to share his teachings, Haemin Sunim lives in Seoul, where he founded the School of Broken Hearts, a nonprofit that offers group counseling and meditation for people experiencing challenges in life.

Deborah Smith (translator) is the translator of Han Kang's The Vegetarian, which won the Man Booker International Prize in 2016.

Lisk Feng (illustrations) is an award-winning illustrator whose work has appeared in such publications as The New Yorker, The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, Monocle, and Travel + Leisure.

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