3.5
Getting To 'I Do'
ByPublisher Description
Dr. Patricia Allen's jam-packed seminars in Los Angeles have resulted in over two thousand marriages. Now you too can take advantage of this proven step-by-step program.
Here's what you'll learn:
- How to attract the right man
- When you should make the first move...and when you should not
- Why equality in a relationship may not be what you're looking for
- Why sex before commitment is a bad deal
- How to have sensational sex
- What makes a man run away from a relationship
- How to know when you're giving too much
- How to get what you want without asking
- What makes a man want to commit
- How to be engaged to the right man within a year!
Download the free Fable app
Stay organized
Keep track of what you’re reading, what you’ve finished, and what’s next.
Build a better TBR
Swipe, skip, and save with our smart list-building tool
Rate and review
Share your take with other readers with half stars, emojis, and tags
Curate your feed
Meet readers like you in the Fable For You feed, designed to build bookish communitiesStay organized
Keep track of what you’re reading, what you’ve finished, and what’s next.Build a better TBR
Swipe, skip, and save with our smart list-building toolRate and review
Share your take with other readers with half stars, emojis, and tagsCurate your feed
Meet readers like you in the Fable For You feed, designed to build bookish communitiesGetting To 'I Do' Reviews
3.5
“Let’s go with 1.5 stars. I don’t even know how I truly feel about this book. I added this to my to-read quite a while ago following the recommendation on one of my many podcasts I listen to. It was published in the 90s, so I knew it’d be dated, but wow how far we’ve come. The entire book is based on a very binary view of the “feminine” vs “masculine” in a relationship. I did my best to read this with an open mind, despite that, and did find that I resonated with SOME things, but absolutely cringed at others. I’m not a seasoned book critic, but what I did do while reading this was highlight quotes that either made me go 🥴 or 🤨 or 👀. I’ll let you guess which is which. Enjoy these bits from the book:
“respecting your man's thinking ahead of your own means that whether the ideas, desires, or opinions that he is sharing agree or disagree with yours, you must listen, re-vere, honor, esteem, and accept them, or negotiate a change in such a way (which I will teach you) so that he feels respected.”
“this transmitting tissue is smaller in right-handed men than it is in left-handed men or in women, generally right-handed men act from either their left lobe (teaching, verbal-izing, problem-solving, solution-giving) or their right lobe (sensuous, nonverbal, sexual), but rarely from both right and left lobes at the same time.
However, a woman, because her corpus callosum is larger, is capable of processing data both from her right and left lobes at the same time, in effect melding her thoughts and feelings. This can cause problems in a relationship between a woman and a right-handed man, when she expects him to be able to speak freely about feelings and he expects her to be logical. Often, a right-handed man is confused about his bright, sensitive woman, and says, "How can anyone be so smart and so dumb at the same time?"
“If you choose to be the feminine energy, do not ask your masculine man for better or more love, time, affection, or sex. You may ask for all the things you want, like diamonds, houses, and cars, because masculine men like giving things. But in the area of love, time, affection, and sex you must wait patiently for the best offer to say yes or no to.”
“If you look back at your own childhood, and your mother was giving, protecting, and cherishing her family, you're seeing someone who forgot to go back to her womanhood after she had her babies. Mothering is a terminal illness when used on able-bodied people over the age of five, who can do for them-selves.”
“If you choose to be the feminine energy in a relationship, please take this pledge:
"I PROMISE NEVER TO GIVE ANYTHING TO A MAN UNLESS HE IS UNDER FIVE YEARS OF AGE OR SICK IN BED, UNLESS THERE'S SOMETHING IN IT FOR ME FIRST."
“NARCISSISTIC-Trying to use logic and feelings equally, which ultimately neutralizes both and ends intimacy through competitive conflict.”
“Knowing what he thinks and wants allows him to focus better, and a focused, thinking masculine man will act decisively, which will elicit respect from you, his feminine woman. He will say, "We're going to go there. We're going to do this. I'm going to get that job. I'm going to build this house. I'm going to provide for you. How do you feel about that?" And you will tell him how you feel, whether it be positive or negative.”
“Feminine women literally gush painful feelings verbally, and they need to know that all those painful feelings will be accepted, even if not approved of, by their men.”
“When he marries, he gives up irresponsibility and takes on the responsibility of his woman and everybody she loves, and she gives up her independence.”
“She can be what I call "undependent,* which is dependent at home and independent at work.”
“Each person in a relationship needs to be able to function financially independently of the other in order to be an adult.”
“Over a period of time, you, too, can "bond" physically to the man you're having sex with. It may take you longer than a feminine-energy woman, but when you do bond, it could become an addiction and cause illness and loss of your ability to work.”
“If you want to "attract" a masculine-energy male, you must be "seen" as a sex object. You take care of your body, dress sensuously, fix your hair and makeup, go where men are, catch "his" eye, and signal your interest and availability”
“A woman may not want to be seen as a sex object, but the truth is, she has to be if she wants to attract a man.”
“you should never flirt in silk, and try not to wear pastels. The rule is, never show sweat. It gives away everything.”
“All right, I know you may be cringing. But I never said finding the right mate was going to be easy. I just said it would be worth the effort.”
“If you go to the gym to work out and be healthy, you're not going there to be female. If you go to the gym to dance to music, to swim, or to lie around and talk to the girls, you are "going feminine." The following is a pledge I ask "feminine-energy" women who come to my seminars to take:
"I PROMISE TO WASTE AT LEAST ONE HOUR EACH DAY OF MY LIFE, TASTING, TOUCHING, SEEING, SMELLING, AND HEARING, WITH NO PERFORMANCE IN MIND, AND I PROMISE TO SHARE THAT PROCESS ONCE A WEEK WITH ANOTHER HUMAN BEING, IN ORDER TO PRESERVE MY FEMININE ABILITY TO BE FEELING-CENTERED AND RELATIONSHIP-ORIENTED, SO HELP ME GOD!"”
“My definition of love is: "THE ONLY WAY YOU KNOW YOU LOVE YOURSELF AND OTHERS IS BY THE COMMITMENTS YOU ARE WILLING TO MAKE AND KEEP."”
“Waiting is hell, but I maintain that a man is not gone unless it has been eight weeks, because it can take that long for him to process a decision. For four weeks, a man can usually keep himself busy dating, working, and living without you. But if he is really interested, somewhere between six and eight weeks he will begin to miss you, and then he will call.”
Okay honestly yall, there are soooo many more but I’m tired of trying to copy and paste from my kindle lol hmu if you want more craziness with maybe a tiny bit of wisdom thrown in?”
“The language of this book is very heteronormative. But if you can get past that, the meat of it is great. A must-read for any woman who considers herself an “aggressive” personality”
Start a Book Club
Start a public or private book club with this book on the Fable app today!FAQ
Do I have to buy the ebook to participate in a book club?
Why can’t I buy the ebook on the app?
How is Fable’s reader different from Kindle?
Do you sell physical books too?
Are book clubs free to join on Fable?
How do I start a book club with this book on Fable?
